My father died
Some people come out over the web, others have been married or given birth.
For me - I’m going to deal with the death of my father.
He died while I was in Europe and I choice to deal with his death until now - as I was in the middle of a micro-content roadshow - my self-titled quest to create new kinds of standards - surrounding people, reviews, media, events and listings.
I decided that he would have wanted it this way.
I needed to give myself some time to get over the intitial shock that my father was dead and that I wasn’t by his bedside when he passed. I had just seen him a few days earlier - as I came through Chicago on my way up to Michigan to be with Lisa, Mimi and Lucy (they were staying at her mother’s house in Grand Haven, Michigan - right on a bluff overlooking the lake.)
I could have gone back. I could have blown off the roadshow and stayed by his bedside. But what’s the point? Would it have made his passing any easier? Maybe.
Would it have helped me deal with his dying. Probably have made it worse.
Would it have helepd the family deal with
Was I afraid to sit there and watch him die? Hell yes!
So we headed to NYC for dinner #1 - and a party after at my friend Kenny Shaffer’s. Kenny’s TV2Me brings U.S. television signals to Monte Carlo and Moscow for rich gamblers who can afford cable TV accounts in NYC. He’d like to be able to do this legally.
I got to meet Scott Mathews and see Amy Harmon pregnant with Sasha.
I got to meet some video bloggers getting ready to deal with the RNC. And we stayed at Marc Barrot’s apartment - the main guy behind WebOutliner.
The image above is my eldest son Aryeh and I.
September 19th, 2004 at 4:06 pm
Mark
My thoughts are with you and your family at this time in need dude
Take Care
September 19th, 2004 at 10:32 pm
Very sorry to hear this, Marc. I’ve not had the experience, but I can understand your coping strategy. Be careful not to be hard on yourself - forget the “what if?”s, this would be a bummer whatever you did. Nice to see the photo, good way of saying life goes on.
September 19th, 2004 at 11:38 pm
Marc,
My deepest condolences. You’re in our thoughts an prayers.
Dave
September 20th, 2004 at 3:37 am
Condolences, Marc. I know what it is to loose a close family member, and I know that dealing with it is matter of time, rather than any other thing.
Hope we meet again, I was in one of Amsterdam’s dinners. I imagine the photographs I did arrived via Riccardo. Regards
September 20th, 2004 at 8:57 am
My condolences, Marc. Please don’t feel bad about not being at his bedside. I am sure he would have wanted his son to be out and about instead of moping by his bed and waiting for the inevitable.
As for me, I want to see people laughing and smiling around my deathbed and enjoying all the free booze and drug I can muster for the farewell party.
September 20th, 2004 at 9:22 am
Marc, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
September 20th, 2004 at 9:47 am
Marc, My heart goes out to you and your family. Thanks for sharing what you were feeling. My papi (Latino equivalent for daddy) also passed away. Take care of yourself as you need to…stuff can always wait.
September 20th, 2004 at 12:04 pm
Sorry for your loss, Marc. It seems like your father’s life had a positive impact for many people beyond just your family, and I hope you find some solace in that.
September 20th, 2004 at 12:50 pm
Very sorry to hear about your dad, Marc. My father died three weeks before he was about to meet Bobby for the first time. I still miss him.
September 20th, 2004 at 5:13 pm
Our thoughts are with you. The article tells us that your father was an admirable man. Take care of yourself.
Rob and Michelle
September 20th, 2004 at 11:51 pm
Marc - I had no idea when I saw you the other day on London… have only just caught up with this news, so herewith my deepest condolences, and greatest respect for carrying on your dad’s fine tradition: as the obituary in the Sun-Times said, “He believed freedom of expression was the main way to effect social change.” David Canter’s ideas clearly live on through what you’re doing!
All the best…
-Marc
September 21st, 2004 at 4:56 am
I’m so sorry, Marc. Be strong and be well.
September 21st, 2004 at 11:44 am
As I often think to similar situation regarding my own father (Did I spent enought time with him ? Did I made him happy ? How can I make his old years easier ? …), let me tell you that I really sorry about this loss.
Take care to you and your family,
September 21st, 2004 at 4:15 pm
Your father sounds like a truly amazing human being, and larger than life in many ways. Ahead of his time, secure in himself. That you will always have. Peace. –jeneane
September 30th, 2004 at 9:07 am
Marc,
Its been a while. Sorry about your loss. Mt thoughts go out to your and your family.
Norm
September 30th, 2004 at 10:21 pm
So sorry, Marc, to learn about the death of your father.
You told me lots of stories about him when we first met.
You didn’t show me a picture - that is him? — and baby Marc —
in your blog (the clean shaven one)? Carbon… wow.
I’ll close my eyes in this living room and hear you bellow out
a resounding chesty ‘om’ for your dad. Pretty good work he did.
He taught you well.
love ya,
ken